Parenting

This I found very insightful. The biggest thing I learned was from reading my mom’s journals. I learned that financial strain does not always have to have a negative affect on your family. In my case, it is as was put in this recent general conference. “I did not raise my family on money, I raised them on faith.” I learned that we all have the strong testimonies we do because my mom taught us with the real life hardships we had to turn to our father in heaven for help. We learned that without true sorry you do not know true joy. That means huge things for my future family. That means that no matter the hardships we endure if I can teach my family that we go together and seek the Lords help that will be the best trial ever. I learned from the over all that family is the most important thing in a child’s life, and with family around, no matter what is happening it will be okay because you can pull together. Family is where you get some needs met that isn’t met from parents.

I learned from my parents opposite parenting tactics that even though the seemed polar opposites that they often had the same outcome, weather good or bad, and that I needed to watch for that in my parenting. I learned that my parents actually did some emotion coaching but they would end it with a spank. I think the spank for me at the end wasn’t just a mute point but rather more harm than good. So basically physical punishment is pointless.

I also think I might have finally found a solution for a fear I’ve had with my own children and that solution was that they won’t go looking to fulfill their needs in other unhealthy ways, if you will just sit down and spend quality time with them. This is something I have been racking my brain trying to figure out and now that I think I have found the solution, I am going to try my hardest to remember it. I realized that even though I was raised to value being anxiously engaged in a good cause that your greatest cause, as a mother is your child. Even if it is sitting down on the ground playing babies with them, when you could be making bread for a sick lady in your ward your kids are more important, for the time you spend with them now will be what truly makes them into great people later.