It's funny the more I learn the more I realize the error of my ways. Now I don't think I'm doing things complely wrong but it's been really cool to beable to learn something that I can change in order to have a better marriage.
This week we talked about getting married and adjusting to it. One thing that was discussed was how the actual marriage event effects the marriage. Our teacher basically pointed out that the more MONEY you spend on any of it, the harder it is on your marriage. The ring, the wedding ect. Which when you look at it logically marriage is already hard to start out because money is usually tight, what if you we're already in debt when you started your marriage, well hey at least yuh have a big rock to show off right.
When my husband and I were getting engaged I told him two things. One, I didn't want my ring to scratch my babies, which meant I didn't care if it was small infact I wanted it to be flat as possible. Two, all I really know about the proposal is places aren't special to me people are, so I would love to be proposed to with loved ones close by.
Now coming back to the more MONEY you spend of something. I emphasized money because it was the exact opposite if you said time. The more time and attention the husband spent on the engagement, according to the teacher, reflected the time and effort he would continue to spend towards the marriage.
Now I'm not trying to brag, I don't think really anyone reads this so this is more a journal for me to help me remember and be grateful for the sweet man I married. Before my husband proposed I flew to Arizona to spend sometime with my family for a week. While I was gone he spent a whole week writing a fairytale story and calling my sisters asking for pictures of me when I was little. For the engagement he drove me all the way to Colarado to meet my family, so they would be close when he proposed. This means so much to me because now just on valentines day we were able to take this fairytale book out and read it again.
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